What is your dating life going to look like after this?!
First of all, what dating life?
Let’s be honest: I don’t really date. It takes time, which I’ve not had a lot of lately. And I’m pretty hardcore (some men like to say intense). I don’t think I do a very good job at casual connections. I like to get to the heart of the matter, each and every time, and that usually doesn’t go over well for people who are just looking for a good time.
(That being said, I have dated since the divorce. I fell in love with the first guy [yea, didn’t see that one coming at all] and because I was still in love with him, I couldn’t give the second guy a fair shot. So…see how I’m not really good at this?!)
Secondly, there aren’t a lot of guys who are interested in dating a single mother, especially if the kid’s got special needs. I promise you, they’re not lining up to get a chance to hang out at kiddie parks or playplaces. And I’m leery of introducing the guys to the kid. My mom dated a bunch and I didn’t really understand what was going on…just that the guy who was nice to me was gone, again.
And, I think my kid’s pretty special; I like him a lot. I don’t want some guy around him who doesn’t feel the same way. And I have the kid a lot of the time…so there isn’t a lot of just-me time to sneak off for a decent snog.
Can you just imagine my profile on some online dating site?
“Fairly crazy single mom of an autistic child who lives with her ex-husband.”
Oh, yea. They’re really gonna come crawling out of the woodworks for that kind of bait.
So you can see, I’m not really expecting to have much of a dating life. He’d have to be a phenomenal, one-in-a-bajillion kind of guy. I don’t see that happening. And scold me for my lack of faith all you want. Let’s just face facts: I don’t have the time to look for him. I’ve got a kid to raise, a house to clean and an ex to survive. My schedule’s pretty full up.
(Would now be a good time to confess that I was asked to go out to the movies this coming Friday…by a guy? He’s got to be crazy, but I’m not going to turn down a chance to get out.)